Welcome to 2020! Feeling fantastic I bet! Or are you?
I thought that I would write my latest blog for this new decade to ask you how you are feeling? Traditionally, the New Year signifies new beginnings, new goals (often in the form of New Year Resolutions) and new starts. So surely, if you consider that you didn’t have a brilliant year in 2019, you should be feeling fantastic now, shouldn’t you? Well often life is not like that and if we have not been happy with ‘our lot’ in life it is often not just going to change overnight with one year passing and another starting. If only things were that simple! There is also the so-called ‘Blue Monday’ (the third Monday in January) which we could use as a reason to relinquish responsibility on the fact that we are, in fact, in control of our own happiness Therefore, we do not need to feel depressed on a certain day just because we have been told that we are more likely to!
So how do we start to take control of our lives and, consequently, how happy we feel? Someone once said that “Change is a process and not an event”. Like anything that is worth achieving it takes due work and diligence, preferably with well-thought-out goals and a clear action plan and a lot of determination and focus – and you have all those things, right? If you don’t, why not put them into place?
I will let you into a secret; we all have our moments where we feel that life is not fair or perhaps, we didn’t deserve something that happened to us. I know that I have had quite a few moments like this in the past. However, as those of us that are trained in personal development understand (even though we may need to remind ourselves of this sometimes) is that we have to create our own happiness in life – even, though many people do not initially appreciate that concept (and some never will). As I have mentioned before, it is how we react to the challenges and experiences we face in life that determines how we feel about a situation. That is why some people handle challenging situations well, whilst others don’t.
Once we realise that we are truly responsible for our own happiness, we become empowered and this newly found self-awareness will help us face future challenges. Learning to accept responsibility means that we are far less likely to blame others for our inabilities to manage our lives as effectively as we could do. We are far more likely to rise to the challenge and take responsibility for ourselves, our happiness and for our decisions. We will develop a tendency to take action to change our lives, and reduce the number of times we procrastinate.
As usual, please let me have your thoughts on this…
A summary of useful tips
- Remember that we create our own happiness in life
- Don’t expect change to happen overnight (i.e. just because it a new year!)
- Have clear goals and an action plan
- Be determined and focused
- Take the necessary actions to achieve your goals and move forward in your life.